wish to fly.

Here among these 11 photos is a short story of a runaway bride. Running away from marriage, running away from abuse, running towards freedom, and wishing to fly. Throughout this story, you will find symbols of domestic abuse. I urge viewers to take their time, look at each photo carefully, and take something from each in relation to domestic violence. I paired some of these photos with poems written by, Pooja Kini.

This project is dedicated to all the women who were forced to suffer silently. Domestic abuse is often an ignored topic in South Asian culture. The husband’s parents don’t want to admit their son is abusive, or they believe that the wife deserves it, but either way they remain silent. The wife is threatened if she ever dares to defend herself or seek help. In some instances families partake in honor killings where women are killed for wanting to marry someone of their choice or refuse to give up their basic rights to control their own lives. They may also partake in dowry deaths where the women is often murdered, abused, or driven to suicide by her husband’s family because they were unhappy with the dowry.

With this project, I am raising my voice for the brave and strong women in my life who have been through domestic violence, and for the women back in Pakistan and India who aren’t able to tell their stories. 

“I raise my voice-not so I can shout, but so that those without a voice can be heard… we cannot succeed when half of us are held back.” - Malala Yousafzai

I would also like to share the story of Noura Hussein, a 19 year old girl forced into marriage who defensively killed her “husband” when he attempted to rape her for the second time. You can read about it here: https://www.aljazeera.com/news/2018/05/sudanese-teen-sentenced-death-killing-husband-rape-180510171137709.html

 

Thank you to Pooja Kini for the beautiful poems to go alongside these photos.

Thank you to Sharbeen & Samra for helping to be a part of this project.

 

If you want to donate to victims of domestic violence, please visit any of the links below:

https://nisahelpline.com/donate/

https://panahshelter.org/donate-to-panah/ : (https://www.vsointernational.org/news/blog/this-pakistan-shelter-is-helping-women-escape-violence-and-rebuild-their-lives)

https://www.narika.org/get-involved/contribute-cash

https://nomore.org/take-action/donate/

https://ncadv.org/donate

 

TRIGGER WARNING- The following photos are a depiction of domestic violence and may be triggering for those who have experienced mental, physical, or emotional abuse. Viewer discretion is advised.

Here is, Wish to Fly.

the underrepresented

This photoshoot is dedicated to all the South Asian women out there who are often underrepresented in media simply because the color of their skin doesn’t fit South Asia’s unreasonable, fair&lovely, eurocentric beauty standards. As we all know, colorism is huge in India and Pakistan. Our society has come to the point where people talk about fighting oppression and uplifting women, but no one actually does anything about it. In this photoshoot I wanted to help represent darker skinned girls in the media, and address an issue through fashion photography. 

I’ll start with an introduction to these wonderful ladies. In the first set of photos we have Anita Kalathara who is an actress and whose family is from Kerala. A little fun fact about her is that she played young Mindy Kaling in the pilot of The Mindy Project. Alongside her is Maya Chakra whose family is from Bangalore and Hyderabad. Maya is a reiki and Qi gong practitioner. In the second set, we have college students Rushika Patel, Shreya Tumma, and Nidhi Bandrapalli. All these girl’s families come from different parts of India: Gujarat, Karnataka & Andhra Pradesh, and Hyderabad, respectively. This is shown through their outfits where they are wearing more traditional styles specific to their states. All of these girls did the photoshoot with confidence, beauty, and glow. 

Not only did I photograph these girls to represent them more in media, but I did this because i am lighter skinned, and just because an issue like this doesn’t affect me, doesn’t mean that i should or am going to stay silent about it. I have light skin privilege and I want to use it for the good by helping others.

Little girls grow up with their mothers bantering them about their skin color and how a man would never want them because they’re too dark. This does not help a girl’s self confidence, and it’s important to teach them from a young age that they’re beautiful and worthy in order to prevent them from being a self conscious teen. It’s also important to teach other girls that are lighter skinned to support these girls. In high school, a South Asian boy my friend had a crush on said that she was “too dark” and basically implied that’s the reason why he wouldn’t want a relationship with her. Comments like these are what destroy girl’s self confidence, especially when they’re young, vulnerable and lost. Support and help your sisters!

With the rise of young South Asians taking their pride in jewelry and colorful clothes to Instagram, it’s important not to romanticize the culture. Every culture has it’s good and bad, and although it's totally fine to appreciate and be grateful for the good, we shouldn’t be silent about the bad especially if we are privileged. While our own South Asians are constantly romanticizing our culture, but not acknowledging it’s dirty laundry they are also promoting social marginalization. Women are treated horribly, LGBTQ isn’t a thing (especially in Pakistan), and more of our afro-south asian brothers and sisters are murdered on the streets the longer we stay silent. Instead of bringing light to these issues, our culture keeps quiet. 

Lastly, an artist disclaimer: When approaching this photoshoot I did not want to objectify darker skinned girls nor become some sort of lighter skinned Pakistani “white savior”. Neither did I want to benefit from this project in any way. I simply wanted to help bring representation of darker skinned girls into the media, so that somewhere in the world, when a girl of the same skin color comes across these photos, she too can feel that she is a work of art.

Please show some love to all the wonderful models on Instagram:

@AnitaKalathara

@MayaChakra

@Stumma

@Rushikaaaa

@Nidbandra

I know you all have been dying to see the photos throughout that whole paragraph, so here you are!